On the Other Side of Heartbreak

I’m going to admit something that’s slightly embarrassing. I say slightly because you’ve probably done it, too. I stalked an ex online. I’m not sure what made me do it, but just utter curiosity. It’s been years since I’ve allowed myself to go to his profile. I’ve written before about how this particular heartbreak was…

Ask For What You Want.

I generally want people to figure things out without me telling them. Usually, it’s with men. If I’m feeling insecure or unlovable, I want nothing more than for him to wrap his arms around me, reassuring me that I’m the greatest love of his life. But I don’t tell him that. If something is bothering…

Set Your People Up to Win.

As supervisors, managers, and bosses, we can easily fall into a routine of absentmindedly directing and giving commands. We tell others: “Do this.” Telling, not asking. Speaking at, not with. And in harmony with expected procedures and hierarchy, our teams robotically march forward. Giving orders stunts healthy autonomy. It builds a culture of people who…